As we near Christmas we hear of amazing tales of selflessness, generosity and kindness. We use Christmas as a time to think of others and be thankful for what we own, are able to gain and for the people that are closest to us. However, there is one man, whom I have met with, who puts others before himself to an extent that I could not have possibly imagined. This young man had been through some of the most extraordinarily traumatic circumstances and yet, to a monumental level, he maintains the greatest possible emotional attributes that any man can ever maintain. The love for his family and the ability to battle through the toughest of situations all add to his wonderful charisma and respect for other peopl
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e.Matthew Sanders(False Name) was born in Blackburn, where he lived on a council estate for roughly five years. During this period, Matthew suffered the first in a series of traumatic events. "I was molested when I was younger, I was five years old." He went on to reveal an even more daunting fact. Matthew's exploitation was committed disgracefully "by a member of the family". "I knew that it had happened. I kind of kept it down and kept it in but it came out when I was having a conversation with my mum when it happened to her as well, by the same family member". His mother was also harassed by the same man, her own father. The man was eventually sent to prison for twenty-six years, and died during Matthews young years. Matthew seemed to smile as he stated he was "not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing".
After five years in a Blackburn council estate, Matthew moved to the countryside where he spent most of his teenager years. However, during his early teens he was faced with another emotional blow. When he was 14, his mother had a serious stroke and had to view it with his own eyes. He went "to play cricket, came back, walked in the door and she was led [Lying] on the floor". His face saddened with the memories of this traumatic time, and he would remember for the rest of his life.

During his first year of University in 2009, Matthew experienced a year of fun, excitement and crazy antics and still describes his university experience in a highly positive light stating "I love it". However, a year that was suppose to break him into the world of higher education, turned out to be a year of suffering. His mother was suffering from a number of "TIA's, which are like mini-strokes" (Transient Ischemic Attacks). This put a massive amount of strain on his emotional life, his social life and his educational life. "In regards to the Uni, I lived a couple of hours away so the logistics of getting back when she needs me or anything is quite difficult". It is understandable to assume that going back and forth would have made his University work suffer yet he selflessly continued to visit his family as much as he can, however difficult it was. He normally had to "carry 10 or 12 books back at a time, your lap-top all your clothes and stuff".
Even during this rough time he was still friendly to everybody and he would rarely let these traumatic events get to him. "I kind of forget it when I'm with people, it's when I'm by myself that I have trouble". His absolute respect for the others around him allows him to take comfort in the company of other people, even when we spoke his politeness and manners were impeccable. "It makes me feel better when I'm with other people". Even though his outside appearance portrays a sturdy emotional level, the feelings about himself move in the opposite direction. "I tend to overanalyze everything it's happened in all times of my life, like my now ex-girlfriend". Even after analyzing himself he still comes to this conclusion. "I would hear something from someone about me. Whether or not its true, I would analyze and I would worry about it."

Following the situation with his mother, Matthew was faced with the biggest set back of the lot. He was told in 2009 that he had been selected for the England under 21's cricket team. Not long after this amazing news he suffered a little accident. "The day after, I dislocated my knee". Who would have thought that this accident would have lead to a whole new wave of suffering. "They found a tumour in my knee, it was a cancerous tumour, it is very rare in people my age". From this, Matthew deduced one simple thing. "When I heard the word cancer I thought…death". Suddenly, University had become the least of his worries and started to panic about what to do next. "It gives you something else to think about".
This is where Matthew truly came into his own. Some people may see this as selfish, whereas others will see it as heroic. I see it as one of the most courageous stories I have ever heard. Matthew decided to tackle his illness alone. He went through a gauntlet of treatment all by himself. "I was on a drug, I can't remember the name of it. I was having injections, I was having radiotherapy. I had other problems, I had DVT (deep Vein Thrombosis) so I had to have morphine and all these other drugs. DVT pretty much runs in my family, my mum's had it and my brother has had it." His radiotherapy treatment was the harshest of them all as every other fortnight he would have to attend it. "For the first couple of weeks they had to strap me to the bed because I kept moving". I was then hit with the reasoning of why he chose to do this alone and the extent of how alone he really meant. "I didn't talk about it, I didn't tell my parents about it". The reason he gave was unreal about my mum". I suppose because his mother was suffering from strokes, any tragic information like Matthews cancer could have easily caused another one.
His selfless acts touched my heart as much as I hope they will touch yours. However, Matthew remains a positive thinker, and a kind and devout son, brother and friend.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel and Matthew has recently been given some news which, I think we can all agree, he definitely deserves. "I have the all clear now, and I don't have to go to hospital for another 2 months". Matthew is not the only one who is recovering. "My mum's in relative health, she has not had an episode for about 7 months now." All in all Christmas is about giving, and one thing we should all give Matthew this Christmas is a huge amount of respect, to recognize his bravery and to see him as an example of what selflessness really is this Christmas.
For more information on child abuse visit: www.NSPCC.org.uk,
Or if you wish to make abused children happy this Christmas visit:www.NSPCCwishes.org.uk. Also if you need further information about Cancer or wish to donate to a Cancer Charity visit: www.CancerResearchUk.org.
Or if you wish to make abused children happy this Christmas visit:www.NSPCCwishes.org.uk. Also if you need further information about Cancer or wish to donate to a Cancer Charity visit: www.CancerResearchUk.org.






